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To Get Love, Give Love To Yourself


By Annie Collyer

Loving Yourself First To Get Others To Love You Back

When it comes to love, you get what you give. You need to love yourself first before you can expect others to love you back.

Wait! Does that sound egotistical? Love myself?

Not at all. Loving yourself means valuing yourself. It means acknowledging and accepting yourself, strengths and weaknesses.

When you love, value and accept yourself as you are, you give room for others to love, value and accept you for who you are, too.

Admittedly, your insecurities get in the way at times. Insecurities about who you are, are a lack of mindful acceptance. They are a form of denial. They are saying you should be better, and it means you are holding off acceptance until you are.

Accepting yourself doesn't mean you don't also seek improvement and growth.

What it means is that you are mindful and aware of how and who you are right now. That is the starting point. From that point, you can mindfully work on growing to become more.

The alternative is not to accept yourself right now. That means you stay stuck in shame over who you are. You may blame others for who you are.

Accepting and valuing yourself means that you take responsibility for who you are. There's no shame or blame in taking responsibility. What there is, is the chance to grow.

Then each new day, you can design and create the life you want.

It's not going to be all Pollyanna happy, happy, positive every moment. There are times when you'll feel depressed, or sulk or cry. Just don't get stuck there!

The best way to avoid getting stuck is to accept your emotions right where they are, take responsibility for them, and then take action that you think is appropriate to deal with them.

You can get a lot of joy and self-acknowledgement when you overcome obstacles and handle life challenges. After you take the time for tears and self-pity, promise yourself to be an overcomer. Summon the strength to move on.

Do What You Enjoy With People You Enjoy

This is the big secret to finding love.

Don't do things because other people expect you to. Follow your own interests. Be yourself, not the person someone told you to be. Allow yourself to freely explore what you are drawn to.

When you do what you love to do, you will create inner joy and satisfaction. Following what draws you emotionally strengthens you emotionally.

Your inner satisfaction and joy builds your inner light that will draw people who share your interests to you.

Set realistic goals. Try new things. If they don't work, accept that and try something else. Life is a series of tries. Keep trying new things. You'll find what works for you.

In the process of opening yourself to new experiences, and accepting and valuing yourself for who you are, you will attract people who value what they see.

You will find people who love you for who you are.

Is having a deep and fulfilling love relationship a big missing in your life?

Are you willing to take action to get what you want?

If your life is not all you want right now, you have the power to make changes so that you get what you are looking for.

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I'll be seeing you on the other side!

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