Re-learning to listen is a new and somewhat difficult choice for you yet this re-listening idea will be offering benefits for better communication and trust. Just reading this article will bring this re-listening idea stronger into your consciousness. It is super powerful that we all need to re-learn. It is the power of empathy. One of the powers to learn more of what people are wanting.
In short it is a question to the speaker and then guessing a value or quality. That is it. A simple question like 'Are you wanting more honesty?'or 'Understanding is what you are wanting?
What a change in the other person as trust and understanding are built between both people. It is that simple. A question and a cherished value of another. YOU are just guessing this quality. It is great to be correct yet you don't need to be.It is always a guess. They may say no it isn't understanding it is financial stability. They may answer the question in that way.
Yet it is important to make this guess and not ask them what they are wanting.This is important to make your guess with integrity. Take a stab at a guess even if you think it is wrong. Just do it. I teach people to look at a values list and guess a value, yet just one guess.
These values are very powerful so one will do. Guessing too many values at one time is mind boggling. Asking if somebody wants warmth, understanding, stimulation and honesty is just too many qualities in one question. Ask just one quality and you will be more successful at offering empathy.
If someone tells you I was sick last week you may ask " Are you enjoying the healing?' So simple to give this question. Just one simple question again to offer understanding and this special way to connect.
If someone is saying they need more money for a car you may ask, "Are you wanting financial security?" Try this guess and see what type of reply you receive. It is a wake up call for both of you for understanding this other person. Take this re-learning to listen, seriously.
You can do it to yourself. Just make a statement and empathize with a question and value, It is a simple re-training of something you learned to do in childhood. It is time for your re-training to make your relationships more connecting and valuable.
Rick has been teaching communication skills for 12 years.Learn this skill more accurately at http://RickGoodfriend.com with Rick Goodfriend video classes. The class has a 30 day guarantee. Use the skills to master your communication skills.
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