Parenting is not for everybody. It changes your life. Especially when they're little. Nothing you do for children is ever wasted. Listen to the desires of your children. Let them become better people, let them believe more in themselves. Don't make him afraid of the unknown,give him support. You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance
Parents need to fill a child's bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can't poke enough holes to drain it dry. Holding high expectations and communicating those expectations to our children on a regular basis is important. It is apparent to me that throughout our history, we have neglected what is probably the most critical area of education for a society: teaching our citizens to be good parents. To be a good parent, you really need to focus on unconditional love, communication, and. criticizing the behavior rather than the child. The goal is for them to do the right thing even when no authority is there watching them. We want them to do the right thing simply because they know it is right, and when this happens, they may be the only ones who know that they achieved a milestone in life that too many people never reach.
It's fear of failure that crushes motivation. The best way to avoid failure is to refuse to try. But it's not funny to scream at kids when they do not have good grades in school. We have to realize that each individual is created with a different level and type of intelligence. Being idealistic is good but it's not good parenting. We have to be realistic because scolding or screaming can crush, scar, our children's psychological make up that would lead to their disastrous experience. It isn't the least bit funny.
Nothing you do for children is ever wasted. Young children have the same capacity for learning. They need affection, attention and approval. They can experience excessive stress if they are physically or emotionally punished, are exposed to violence, are neglected or abused, or live in families with mental illness, such as depression or substance abuse.
Children learn by trying until they succeed. Children are constantly changing and developing new abilities. Parents should notice these changes and follow the child's lead. Responding to and encouraging children helps them develop more quickly. They learn acceptable and unacceptable kinds of behaviour by imitating and watching others.
So, if mothers and fathers treat each other with love and respect, this is what their children will learn and most likely 'replay' in their adult relationships.
This article is about good parenting.
By Rosemarie Sumalinog Gonzales
Article Source: Children Are Educated By What The Grown-Ups Do