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Missing Somebody


By Rick Goodfriend

Missing somebody is a strange article. It is about mourning another that is not present any more in your life.

What do you do to get over them? To not think about them any more. It is not easy to mourn another yet here is a way to do so. Mourning another is to get over the values that they helped us to deal with. Values like honesty, warmth, care, maybe even trust. If these were all the needs you are mourning I do not envy you yet this was a mighty powerful person that you are mourning if they satisfied these needs of yours.

That's what they did by satisfying these values. They were a great person to know. No wonder you miss them, you mourn for them.

What you need to do is to write out these qualities they satisfied for you. Whether it was love, warmth or joy. Write them all out and list an experience you had with them about that value.

Then name the feeling that was helped to gather around that quality like fun, closeness or happiness. Now you are remembering the goodness that they gave to you. Take your time as this is for your own healing. Do not be scarce with your time.

What you are doing is bringing these needs that were satisfied to you, they would be making your happier because your needs are bringing these feelings back to you. You may be over joyed as you feel the richness of these values being satisfied again.

Remember the experiences in your day and feel happy again celebrating this person. Your needs are being satisfied again by the memory of this friend or relative of yours. It is all in your mind.

In a way this experience is giving you empathy. Empathy is a deep understanding what you may be experiencing. You are enjoying this understanding a s it is replaying the trust in this person. You are rebuilding connection as you remember the experiences too. This is not a simple exercise yet is a worthwhile one as these needs that have been developed again are working their miracles.of reviving you

What you experienced here is a remarkable invention by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. He taught Nonviolent communication to millions over the years. He brought peace to many countries and their people by learning these communication skills. He has brought much peace to my life too.

You can learn more of these communication skills on videos at my website at http://RickGoodfriend.com. Enjoy learning about empathy and other skills that will help you communicate 9 times better..

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